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Senior Accepting Home Care
Helping Your Senior Accept In Home Care

Posted on July 17, 2017 with 0 comments

Here at 123 Home Care, we’ve seen a lot our clients struggle with helping their parents or loved ones to accept in-home. This can put a lot of our clients in a tough position since the demands of care can be very overwhelming. The risk of caregiver burnout can put family members and recipients of care at great risk.

In this article, we will discuss what we have found to be the root causes of resistance. In addition, we will offer a few suggestions to make the process of hiring in-home care more agreeable.

Barriers to Accepting Home Care: Why Seniors Resist

The resistance to receiving in-home care can seem irrational and in some cases, the recipient of care can appear to be overly stubborn. If we consider the physiological sources of this resistance we can offer a bit more compassion toward our parent or loved one. Through compassion, we can ease our own frustration and help lower the barriers put up by our parent or loved one.

Fear of Dependence / Loss of Independence

It can be difficult to come to terms the idea of dependence on others after spending a lifetime as a capable and independent person. Hiring outside help can symbolize the beginning of the end of independence for some people.

Fear of Vulnerability

As our bodies age, we can experience difficulties with basic everyday activities like showering and going to the bathroom. These were undoubtedly very private activities for most of their lives. The prospect of needing help to perform them can lead to feelings of vulnerability. It can be hard to imagine sharing these moments with a stranger, but once a relationship is formed with their caregiver they will undoubtedly feel more trusting and less vulnerable. Keep in mind that our caregivers are professionally trained to overcome resistance through friendliness and trust.

Fear of Abandonment

Some seniors fear that hiring outside care can mean that they will soon be forgotten or abandoned by their families. This may happen in some sad cases, but the majority of our clients who successfully hire care have ended up deepening their relationships with their parents or loved ones after the burden of care has been lessened.

It’s important to note that while you may recognize the sources listed above in your parent or loved one it may not be wise to refer to them by name since it can depersonalize their concerns. Instead of saying “I think you’re really afraid of abandonment,” you could say “I will always be here for you.”

How To Approach Your Loved One About Senior Care

Now that we have a bit more insight into why you parent or loved one might be resistant to receiving care, let’s look at some proposed solutions that might help to alleviate their concerns.

Take It Slow

In some cases, you may need home care right away, but if your need for home care is arising more gradually it can be useful to start slow. Here are a few ideas on how to do that:

  • Propose a trial period. The idea of hiring a caregiver can feel very permanent and scary. The idea of trying out in-home care for a few weeks or a month might seem more manageable to their loved one and help to make them feel more in control of the process.
  • Start small. It can be overwhelming to bring a new person into your home for 8 hours a day right off the bat. If it can be arranged, it might be better to have a few introduction days to help build a relationship with your loved one and their new caregiver.
  • Foster friendly interactions. We’ve found it helpful if family members remain present for the first few caregiving sessions. This helps to foster friendly interactions and build trust. Also, by directing the caregiver in small tasks you can show your loved one how helpful it can be to have another pair of hands around the house.

Make Them Feel In Control

When feeling like we’re losing independence it can also feel as though we are losing control. It is important to stress that a caregiver is a resource. Their purpose is to help your loved one not to control their actions. Their role is inherently no different from hiring a private driver or a personal chef. Your parent or loved one still calls the shots!

Include Them In The Process

It’s important that your parents or loved ones are involved in selecting the right caregiver. This means including them in the interview process as much as possible. At 123 Home Care, we have a Comfort Match guarantee which means we guarantee to match the most compatible Qualified Caregiver with your loved one. We won’t stop until you’ve found the right match! Communicating this can help reassure your loved one that they won’t be stuck with anyone they find disagreeable.

As you can see, hiring in-home senior care can be a daunting proposition so and your loved one might be inclined to offer up some resistance. Once you’re able to understand the dynamics of the situation it should make the process much more agreeable for everyone.

At 123 Home Care, we have a whole host of features and benefits make the process of receiving care manageable for everyone involved. From our 24/7/365 Availablity to our Comfort Match Guarantee we’re here to help! Call us anytime at (866) 977-7503 for a FREE in-home or in-hospital assessment.

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